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Earth Mother?

I have a simple philosophy on parenting and that is this… I am not my children’s friend, they should have enough friends if I’ve done my job as a parent properly… I am their parent. Their teacher, their chef, their nurse, their confidant, their coach. but in my opinion, while they’re still children I’m certainly not their friend.

I have made many mistakes as a parent, especially with my eldest two sons. I allowed the emotional and messy break-up with their father affect me and I neglected my boy’s needs. I made it difficult for my eldest to confide in me and without realising, I allowed him to feel that it was his fault and because I was wrapped up in how I felt, I became unapproachable in his eyes.

But part of being a parent is being able to recognise when we’ve made mistakes and trying to adapt and be a better parent, I patently didn’t learn that from my own parents!

Children should be nurtured. I use the ‘Earth Mother’ loosely but I had natural births, I breastfed until they self weaned, I BLW, Cloth nappy, co-sleep, and pretty much follow my instinct.

I am a bit of an Earth Mother… I believe in a Mother’s Instinct and Intuition, that feeling you get that tells you if you’re right or wrong. I believe in my instinct and I am in tune with my intuition.

We co-sleep. On hearing this, people are so quick to point out how ‘dangerous’ this practice is but I’d like to bet that most of us have at least had the odd night where we’ve put baby in our bed to get a night’s sleep…

I read an article once on sleeping arrangements of babies. Parents were asked where their babies slept and all answered “In his/her cot/moses basket”… when questioned more indepth, a huge proportion then admitted to having their baby in the parental bed for the majority of the time.

We just admit to doing it full-time for at least the 1st year. I breastfeed so it seems the most natural thing to do so that baby has his/her feeds and goes back to sleep without being disturbed. At around a year old, we’ve put a bed in their room and introduced the joys of having a ‘big boy’s/girl’s room’  and they’ve been really happy with it… then again, although they’ll go down great, by morning they’re very often in our bed again and we’re absolutely fine with that. My attitude is what could be more natural than sleeping in the warmth and security of the people you love the most?

I breastfeed… I believe it’s simply what we’re supposed to do. I have no idea what the ingredients in formula are and to me they sound like a chemistry lesson, so I choose to breastfeed… I don’t try to make others do the same and no-one should feel guilty either way, though I do believe there’s not enough information for those wishing to breastfeed and there’s a lot of misinformation which worries new mums into quitting early, believing they ‘aren’t producing enough milk’. Breastfed babies DO feed every hour or two for the first few weeks and they do often stay on the breast for half an hour or so… that doesn’t mean you don’t have enough milk, nor does it mean you’re not doing it right. At 6, 8 and 12 weeks, babies tend to have a growth spurt and demand to be fed more often… these are often times when mums quit thinking they’re not producing enough to sustain baby’s needs. I have found health visitors to tell mums to ‘top-up’ with formula (which will hinder mother’s milk production!) as baby won’t be gaining the right amount of weight. (you know, the amount the chart in their red health book says they should!)

The Health Visiting Team are an OPTIONAL service that I opted out of, I gained my own support network of like-minded mothers and I feel I am wasting the time of a Health Visitor to be honest, though my last one was fantastic, I just felt that after 5 babies, I kinda knew pretty much all they could tell me.

Weaning… I follow my child. Baby-led Weaning is the only way in this house. I did it all by the book with my eldest and when he was still gagging on lumpy food and spitting out the lumps, I was at my wits end… ‘The books said they MUST be having lumpy food by 10 months!! He was surely going to be eating pureé forever at this rate!’…

With my others, I introduced finger foods when they were ready and baby rice and home pureéd foods occasionally too. We didn’t stick to any particular way or age, just what felt right.

What did piss me off was a Health Visitor telling a friend that she was an unfit mother for introducing baby rice to her 4 month old son when ‘The World Health Organisation’s’ recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed for 6 months and not to introduce solids until at least then… What they failed to inform her is that the WORLD Health Organisation includes 3rd world countries where there isn’t sufficient nutritious food… this is England! When my eldest 2 were babies, we were told that if we DIDN’T introduce solids before 6 months, that we’d be hindering their speech as they need to exercise their jaw muscles!!! And now they’re back to 4 months again!! I prefer weaning when baby shows signs that it’s time… much more reliable!!

Nappies… I like to cloth nappy… Most are shaped like disposables and velcro or popper closed, have gorgeous waterproof ‘pul’ covers and look adorable… not to mention they save hundreds compared to disposables, especially if you use them for subsequent children or swap them around with friends. I don’t buy into the fact that they are more ‘eco-friendly’ as it really does depend on how you wash and dry them, but they certainly are easier on the pocket than disposables. To be honest, once my kiddies are toddling, they often go without nappies in the daytime, you can often tell when they’re about to go and you can get them to a potty and let their skin air.

Don’t even get me started on immunisations!! Firstly they are optional… how many parents actually feel they are optional though? Most parents I know thought they were compulsory! Secondly, when you get drugs from the chemist, you ALWAYS get a leaflet that you HAVE to read before you take the medicine… it lists all the active ingredients, things that could cause adverse effects, what those effects are (even rare ones) etc… when you take your 2 month old baby to get those 1st lot of jabs, do you really know what’s in them or what the adverse reactions could be? Two of my children had serious adverse reactions to immunisations and I am against immunising babies so young. I’ve really done my research on this and I once had a bit of an argument with a ‘medical professional’ about my children’s delayed jabs… they claimed that by not immunising my children, I’m putting their childen at risk! What?! If you are 100% sure that those jabs are effective then how is my child risking your child? Your child is protected surely? The only way my child could possibly be infected is through other non-immunised children, and your children are protected so there should be no problem at all!! I made an informed decision to delay my children’s jabs. I am not entirely happy allowing them at all to be honest, but I’m delaying them at the very least.

We all make choices as parents, I’m not claiming my choices are right for anyone else but my family. I’m not disrespecting anyone else’s choices.

There are women out there who eat their placenta’s… not for me but hey, if they feel that it makes them better mother’s and they certainly aren’t affecting anyone else, then go for it, that’s their prerogative.

We all have our beliefs. I certainly do. I know that a lot of what I’ve done, at least with my eldest is totally against what I believe now, but that’s through learning and experience. Making mistakes and wanting to better them. None of us are perfect parents but I’m sure we all strive to be.

I believe that children thrive best in a secure family with good role models, ideally with their mum and dad. As a couple we should teach our kids by example, how to deal with problems in relationships, how to love, how to work as a team. Whether those parents are together or not, they made that child and should act as business partners, working together to raise a well-adjusted child. No-one says you have to get along but you both have something in common… love for your child and a want to give that child the best upbringing you can possibly give.

A mother should raise her daughter to be a woman with morals, values, self-respect and self-worth. To know herself and be independent. Not to depend on a man for money but to know she can work and be successful and support herself.morals, values, self-respect and self-worth.  To know that a couple balance each other as equals, neither one is more important than the other.

A father should raise his son to be a man with morals, values, self-respect and self-worth. To know himself and to be independent and be domesticated. To respect women and not to depend on a woman to look after him, to know he can take care of himself. morals, values, self-respect and self-worth. To know that a couple balance each other,  they are equal, neither one is more important than the other.

None of us are perfect but we can try to be better, that way maybe our children will be better parents than us…

(core values image from http://www.all-about-motherhood.com/index.html )

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Posted by on January 12, 2012 in Believe, Family, Kids, Life, Parenting, Thoughts

 

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Neglecting my Blogging Responsibilities!

Just a quick message to say Hi.

My blog been neglected of late but I have had lots going on.

#4 is only 4 years old and has had some health issues and is under a Paediatrician, Respiratory Clinic, Dietitian, ENT specialist… He’s had teeth out, blood tests, heart scans, special diets and is due for a sleep study soon.

#3 is having his own issues with the ASD.

#1 is doing well at uni and #2 is still looking for work.

Other than that, things are ok and we’re getting through these tough times!

Be back soon guys.

 

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Reasons for the Thuggery… Excuses, Excuses.

Now for the bit that makes me really angry… The reasons that are being given for all this madness…

Now please bear with me and accept my utmost apologies for the swearing, when things upset me, they REALLY upset me.

These kids have spent the last 4 nights hunting in packs, acting like feral animals and causing absolute chaos in their own communities!

Something my grandad used to say rings in my ears… “Don’t shit on your own doorstep. Even cats won’t shit in their own back garden.” These kids didn’t give a shit… most of them seemed that unconcerned at getting caught that they didn’t even cover their faces and there were cameras everywhere, some were taking footage on their own phones!

On sky news was a lad of about 15/16yrs old, his face covered and when asked by the reporter why his face was covered if he was law-abiding, he replied “I’m not law-abiding though.” he continued to say that he was there to ‘piss the police off and get money’. What the hell?

Words used have been ‘deprived’, ‘oppressed’, ‘disadvantaged’. I’m so sorry but this is a complete crock of shit!

This poor disadvantaged youth of today with their ‘uniforms’ of £90 Nike trainers, £35 trackies & £50 hoodies… they have no future, because they really can’t be arsed to work for minimum wage or quit the weed, they’re deprived of an education because they didn’t work hard enough, therefore failing their GCSE’s and having no respect for their teachers or their education, and disrupting lessons and threatening teachers, and now apparently, they are fighting oppression… They are obviously living in Libya or some other dictatorship because they damn well ain’t living in England!!

We have to admit, it must be a struggle for them to get out of bed after a night on the stella or the weed and drag their lazy arses out of bed before lunchtime to go down the social to sign on every fortnight to get their free money and rent paid.

Oh the poor disadvantaged, deprived, oppressed youth of today. 😦
These kids don’t know real disadvantage!! We are LUCKY to live in this country! I know people who’ve had to look into the eyes of kids with no clothes to wear, their parents have been killed for even uttering what they really think and these kids eat off rubbish tips! Or those kids in the 3rd world countries that are MAKING the clothes these thugs wear, the kids that have to support their families by risking their health and sometimes their lives in jobs where they’re grateful to earn a pittance. Now THAT’S disadvantaged youth with no future!

This was thuggery with a blatant disregard for the rest of society.

These kids DO have a future… if they use their own parents as an example of how NOT to be.

I’m sorry if I offend anyone here, but I can speak from experience… there are way too many people in my generation who are in my position that use their circumstances as a damn excuse to behave badly.

As I’ve mentioned before, I didn’t have the very best start in life but this isn’t an excuse to raise my kids like feral animals.

I was raised in care so does that mean I have to give up on my kids because that’s what my parents did?

I was a teenage single mum on benefits, so does that mean I should think the world owes me and not have ambition?

I lived on a shitty run down council estate, so does that mean I should’ve kept the inside of that flat looking like a shit-hole?

NO, people. You make your own future. You start by not blaming the past, then accepting the present and changing the future.

I am so fucking pissed off with people making damn excuses.

These parents are trash, they cannot have missed the news, if they did, they can’t have missed the High Street was completely trashed!

What the fuck were they doing while their kids (some as young as 9 and 10 years old!!) were smashing the shit out of good hard-working people’s lives and working their way through our cities like a vile cancer, stealing from them up until 2am?!!

Certainly not raising their children like the rest of us!!

Message to these ‘Parents’… Do what the job title says and PARENT your damn kids!!

Stop expecting the streets to raise them because WE live on those streets and WE have to put up with their intimidation, their abuse, their rudeness, their bad manners, and their complete lack of compassion toward their fellow human being.

There’s a problem with the streets raising kids… the people on them your kids are looking up to. That lad was mugged for a bike, beaten up (so badly his jaw was broken), and bleeding profusely he was robbed again. This wasn’t the worst area in London… this was Barking!!

Now I’ve lived in Barking, Bow and Millwall for most of my life, and I lived in NW London for a fair few years (visiting friends on the estates of Barking during that time) and I can honestly say that this is most certainly NOT the norm for Barking. In 30-odd years and with 4 sons, I never even knew of anyone that was mugged in Barking. Sure it happened occasionally, but someone getting beaten by one group of teenagers and then mugged by another? No.

When we lived in NW London 2 of my sons went to the infamous St Georges in Maida Vale, where Headteacher Phillip Lawrence was murdered, and gangs are commonplace in the area and in the school, and muggings and violence commonplace in the areas surrounding the school. Both my eldest sons were mugged at times, and it’s a dangerous place, especially for other youths. Youth on youth crime is the worst. They can’t walk through the estates if they’re not local or their face isn’t known without being in danger. Even though both my kids knew some of the younger gang members from school, out of school things would be very different. If my boys were to go on the estate with someone that lived there to play xbox or something, that kid would get trouble for bringing him.

We lived in NW London and St George’s is West London (or north weezy and weezy!) and the gang fights spilled into school over postcodes. My 17yr old son lost 3 mates that got stabbed to death by the time he was 15. A guy was axed to death 2 mins from my flat at 10am. A bus driver was attacked with a nail gun ‘for a laugh’. A 15 year old was shot in our local chip shop. I’m lucky, I still have my kids. They’ve only been mugged a few times. This was normal for us in NW8. Barking… please don’t glamourise this way of living.

The kids in Barking and other areas (for some ridiculous reason) want to copy what’s going on in London and it’s not big, it’s not hard, and it’s not fucking funny. People die. Mothers never get overthe death of their children. And it never stops. Thank god that Barking isn’t that bad… Yet.

Things can change there, it’s not too late for people to stamp there foot down.
Don’t let your kids see what mine have had to.

PARENTS LISTEN!!


Raise your OWN fucking kids and stop expecting the streets to raise them! Stop sticking them in their bedrooms surrounded by the latest TV, Games Console, DVD’s, Games, Laptops etc. That ain’t parenting!!! That’s fucking neglect!!

Letting 10 year olds play 18rated games full of sex, drugs, car theft, crime and violence seem ok? Will it seem ok when theystops being able to tell the difference between these games and reality? When they’re the ‘youngers’ and running drugs for the ‘mandem’? When they becomes the ‘mandem’ and get shot or stabbed? Seem far fetched?

Open your eyes… look around the estates… at the 15yr old girl pushing a buggy, the 16yr old boy with the tag round his ankle, the mother standing by the hearse with the ‘SON’ wreath…

Mums, set a damn example to your daughters, I don’t want to go to pubs and clubs and see your 13 year old daughter’s breasts barely covered by the ‘top’ only fit for a pole dancer. I certainly don’t need to see her shagging some random fella down some alley on the way home! And YES, it does happen, it happens more often than people think! Dress and act like a MOTHER. YOU decided it was time to have kids, so YOU have to take responsibility for you actions and change your life.

Teach them some goddamn self-respect and self-worth! Set them curfews and boundaries and teach them that they don’t need to give themselves away to men to get noticed. Teach her that ‘Linking’ with a boy and having sex with him and his 3 mates is NOT how it’s supposed to be, and don’t be naive, your daughter’s ARE doing this! Give them a decent male role-model that is going to stick around. Teach them that emulating sexual positions and sounds in public is bloody disgusting and again they should have self respect! Teach her to be a lady!

Teach your son’s to respect women, you are his mother and a woman… he should respect that. Teach him that ‘linking’ up’ with a girl/girls just for sex is not on! Teach your son that his sperm is precious, it’s your potential grandchildren… teach him NOT to share it with just anyone! Teach him self-respect and self-worth. Teach him to respect girl’s reputations. Locker room talk destroys girl’s lives when they’re young. Explain to your sons that when a girl with no self-asteem feels she has to sleep with boys to get them to like her, then get’s treated like shit and dumped, is it fair that she then becomes a ‘slag’ after 2 or 3 disrespecting boys has had their way?

Teach him that to cry is not showing weakness. Teach him that to walk away from a fight is not being a ‘pussy’ but only fight when it’s absolutely necessary. Teach him that when it IS absolutely necessary, that a man fights with his fists… he may be beaten but if he is, he lives to see another day. Teach him to be a gentleman!

DAD’s…. yes you… if you’re still around.

…and I don’t mean when it’s convenient for you, I mean whenever your child NEEDS you to be there.

No girlfriend, friends, sports, pastimes etc. should be more important than your child. Your child needs you even when it seems they don’t. In some areas, good male role models are hard to find, especially in the more deprived areas.

See the connection there???… NO fathers at home with jobs=kids living in poverty!!

Proud of yourself now?

Get a grip. You don’t need to be with your babymother for that child to grow up well, you just need to be there for the child. Not wearing that condom became a lifelong commitment. Was it worth it? It will be one day. If you stick around and raise that child right. YOU need to show your daughters how men should treat women, and show your sons how to be men.

ALL PARENTS.

Teach your children that they have to work hard to get anything or anywhere in life. crime does NOT pay. Good things happen to good people.

Teach them to value and embrace their education, it’s the key to a better future. Teach them ambition, respect, manners, morals, compassion, empathy, values. How to be patient, how to be dignified, how to be gracious. Praise them at every possible opportunity. Talk to them.

Don’t be your child’s best friend, be their parent… they should have enough friends, no kid looks at their mum as their friend! Set rules, boundaries and curfews and stick to them. Set punishments and stick to them. DON’T be afraid to chastise your child! Smacking your child is NOT illegal. I’m not talking about hitting or physically abusing your children, I’m talking giving a naughty child a smack on the hand, the bum or that back of the leg. There IS a clear line between smacking a child and abusing a child, and I should know having been on the receiving end of both. A smack given by a loving parent in a calm, controlled manner isn’t going to cause any lasting emotional or physical damage. It will make them realise what they did was wrong and it displeased you. Almost everyone in our generation was smacked when we were naughty and we all agree that we grew up with love and respect. People nowadays are afraid of their children, that’s not acceptable. I’m not telling you to smack your children… That’s YOUR choice, I’m just telling you that there IS a choice.

Of course love your children… No-one disputes a parent’s love for their child, but actions speak louder than words. A hug, some praise, or just a smile. Lastly, BE THERE when they need you… Even when they don’t seem to want you around, they’ll need you around. Eat dinner together and spend the time getting to know your kids and what they do when you’re not around. You’ll be surprised…
If you work, then ensure someone is there for your kids when you can’t be.

If you’re not sure if you can do it, there’s no shame in signing up to a parenting course.

Parenting is a HUGE commitment. Teach your kids this by example.

1. So they grow up successful.

2. so they don’t find out while they’re still kids.

You may not be able to make your OWN lives a complete success, but you CAN ensure your kids lives are.

I’m still trying… Me and my husband are raising 5 kids in a council house and survive on 17 p/a. Apparently, we’d be better off on benefits but we teach our kids that there’s no such thing as a free-ride. There’s no pride in that.

You work and you may have to work damn hard for very little but you do it… the harder you work and the more you better yourself the better you’ll feel about yourself.

I KNOW my kids will grow up with the right attitudes, the right morals, the right values and hopefully successful.

If YOUR child was out until the small hours last night or in the last few nights & they have new trainers, clothes, phone, laptop, TV, games console, games etc. & YOU didn’t buy them, then it’s time to be a parent and teach your little fuckers darlings right from wrong… give them a bloody good slap and march them down to the nearest police station with their newly aquired belongings & do what you should’ve been doing the last 10-20years!

Step to it, we’re waiting!

Don’t get me wrong, I think the media has a part to play. Alex Rogers from Hackney says it much better than me…

http://ymlp.com/zAqsg9

Until next time….

 

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Riots?? In Civilised London??? WTF?!!!

Firstly, I’d like to apologise in advance. There may be some swearing in this post as I’m so angry!

Everyone who knows me, knows I’m a very opinionated woman, with very strong values. I find it difficult to accept that other people can’t have good values or morals as I don’t think it’s that hard, nor do I think you necessarily need to be raised with these morals and values.

I didn’t have the very best start in life. I suffered abuse and neglect. I was taken into care aged 3 and I never felt loved as a child, in fact, I rarely felt ‘liked’. I had a very low self-asteem and I thought I’d amount to nothing. I lived on my own in a bedsit at 16 or 17 still under social services ‘care’ and was deemed ‘institutionalised’ and ‘at risk of being overly dependant on men’. I dabbled in drugs, committed some petty crimes and ended up pregnant at 17.

In fact I was a single mum of 2 by 19 and living in a flat on the 8th floor of a tower block on a shitty council estate.

None of this is an excuse to raise my kids like feral animals.

Last Thursday, Specialist officers from Operation Trident were involved in the pre-planned attempted arrest of a man from Tottenham, 29 year old father of 4 Mark Duggan, which led to him being shot dead by police. There are allegations of the family having to wait 36-48 hours to see the body as well as other issues between them and the police. I don’t want to speculate on the death of this man as I really don’t know the cold hard facts.

Do I think the police were justified? My thinking is that he must have been under surveillance for some time and he ‘allegedly’ had possession of a handgun, and I do believe in  ‘live by the sword, die by the sword’. If someone chooses to carry an illegal firearm, they have to be willing to use it. And somewhere down the line someone will shoot at them, whether it be the police or another criminal.
Do I think he fired it at police? I don’t know, though evidence suggests not.

Do I think the police can make mistakes? Of course. They are human the same as the rest of us.

The bottom line is that because of this, the family and friends of Mark Duggan and approximately 300 people had begun a peaceful protest to demand answers from the police, this erupted into violence…

From there it seems, every youth in London that claimed to be ‘disadvantaged’ has jumped on the bandwagon and instigated violence and vandalism across our country’s Capital city.

Many town centres have been destroyed… shops smashed up, looted, and raised to the ground. Cars smashed up, overturned and set alight. Bricks and missiles being hurled at the police.

There is no reason for this now, I keep hearing phrases like ‘mindless vandalism‘… this isn’t mindless!! It’s a premeditated, pre-planned operation! Kids have been using BBM, Facebook, Twitter and suchlike to organise rioting and looting across our great capital and the police just haven’t had the manpower on the street to deal with it! People are frightened, youths are going feral and there seems to be no stopping them.

Here is a video of an injured Malaysian student. Ashraf Haziq was attacked and robbed randomly in Barking. He is now in Hospital with a broken jaw, and broken tooth and awaiting an operation. He’d been on his way to visit a friend when he was beaten and had his bike stolen, then this happened and he also lost his mobile phone and wallet.

Please be warned, it is VERY distressing.

It’s hard to escape talk of the riots, it’s been 4 nights now and if you take a walk down any High Street in practically any town you’ll see the damage that these thugs have done. Once they finish looting they set what’s left on fire. It seems that every JD Sports, Foot Locker, PC World, music shop, games shop, phone shop, designer clothes shop etc. has been looted… Waterstone’s, the book shop has amazingly remained unscathed.

More seriously, people’s homes have been destroyed, their businesses, cars, everything. The bustling shopping areas of London look like a warzone.

These are from Barking, one of the lesser hit places.

But then amazingly, out of this devastation, a new community spirit is emerging… People are vowing NOT to allow these thugs destroy our city. Monday night, a few people on twitter decided that they were going to start something new… #riotcleanup began! Communities were coming together and planning clean-up operations everywhere that had been destroyed. Yesterday morning armed with brooms, gloves and black sacks, thousands of people came out and swept the streets clean.

The Wonderful People of Clapham!

Of course we have the fabulous Emergency Services to thank for the relatively quiet night last night, a few towns outside of London were targeted… Manchester, Birmingham and a few others, but the presence of 16000 police on London’s streets may have scared the little thugs back under their rocks!

And I HAVE to mention the wonderful Sikhs of Southall! Hundreds of Sikh men, patrolled the streets outside their Gurdwara (and also stood guard outside the local Mosque while Muslims were worshipping!) Peaceful and dignified but not willing to put up with thuggery from British youth.
The British Asians of this country showed the EDL (English Defence League) what defending England is all about!

Though the EDL haven’t done much defending at all! In fact they sat in a pub in Eltham getting drunk all day yesterday, tying up police resources as they were risking public order!

As was tweeted last night… ‘ Bloody immigration. We let these Sikhs into our country and all they do is defend our boroughs and communities’. ;0)

This brings me to add a bit of humour to the post, this wasn’t about the riots but it always makes me smile. ;0)

 
 

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Here we are then!

I’ll start this with a little about myself.


I spent 15 years of my childhood in care and was pregnant with my 1st son aged just 17. I was a single mum of 2 by the time I was 20.

Me aged 27.

At 25 I met my husband and we were married within 5 years. We had another 2 sons, then last year we had a beautiful daughter.


My eldest now 19, (or #1 as we call him!) went to start his University Degree a few weeks ago. He’s the musician. He plays guitar, drums & violin. He is studying music technology as he has been making, recording and producing music from a little recording studio in his bedroom for a few years now.
My 17 year old (#2) is more of a ‘hands on’ lad, preferring sports. He was (until recently) doing an engineering apprenticeship. He has a hot temper but he’s got a huge heart and is immensely loyal. He’s had a tough time lately, he lost his job, his girlfriend of 2 years and is feeling it a bit. He’s decided to go and stay with his dad for a few weeks to get his head together and come back fresh when he’s more able.

My 11 year old  (#3) has some problems and he has Asperger’s Syndrome, he’s very into wrestling, I guess it’s more of an obsession than an interest, but that’s Asperger’s for you! He is a keen boxer and he’s just found out he’s being carded in the new season.
My 4 year old (#4) is a typical 4 year old. One minute he’s laughing, the next he’s having a tantrum! He is very much into the Superhero Squad… Spiderman, Ironman, Hulk… if it’s got superpowers, then he likes it and of course Toy Story!

Then there’s my 17 month old (#5) she’s adorable, my little princess. She smiles and everyone smiles, she lights up the room with her huge blue eyes and she’s so bright. She’s a model.
So I’ve had children in my teens, my 20’s and my 30’s and I have to say, it’s harder to cope with the sleep deprivation now than it ever was when I was younger!

Up until 3 years ago, I was an army wife living in St Johns Wood, but my husband left the army and we now live in Suffolk, which is ok but I so miss London, I’m a city girl at heart and I’m sure if we can ever afford to move, I’d love to go back to SJW. I guess I miss the community spirit that forces families have but I was born and bred in London and I love it there so much.

In my spare time (when I actually get some spare time!) I like to read and I also crochet like a granny! I enter (and often win!) lots of competitions too!

I am also a strong believer in karma and staying positive, always being thankful for what we have instead of dwelling on what we lack in life.

Too many people are so negative and don’t see just how very lucky they are!

 
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Posted by on June 21, 2011 in Crafting, Help!!, Kids, Parenting

 

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